African men are egoistic and yes, you read that right. Being African makes you a product of Africa, heroic, strong, versatile, energetic, resilient and egoistic. So, it's not enough for you to say "you are beautiful". You need more than being beautiful to win that heart of a "strong" mind.
Truly, men are moved by what they see, but as we all know, it's pertinent that you not only view the container, but you also need to access the content to know if it's worth appreciating and earned.
How do you win the heart of an egoistic man, an African man? Be Cultured - Culture is one of the most true nature of a man. He does not shy away from it and can easily identify with anyone who respect his culture. Everyman, African men especially, wants a woman who holds "cultural heritage" in high esteem. So, if you want a man to open his heart up to you, be Cultured, promote your culture, live a morally cultured life and cherish your culture, so that he will know that his children would not be among those who deny their source and background.
Respect - This is a two-way thing; it is given and it is earned. Absolutely, no man wants a woman who is disrespectful, regardless of age, position and status. Being African, makes it easy for men to know that respect is one of the things that makes a person cultured. A friend once told me: he says, "a rude lady is a nude lady" because she has lot all that there is to her; she is seen as crude and shameless. Being respectful does not mean you look while your self esteem is trampled on, respect means having to say "No" in a polite manner. These days, lots of marriage has turned sour owing to the fact the man felt disrespected or not man enough to man his home. In an African home, culture is valued and respect is lived out! In the days of old, women do not disrespectful men or regard them as inconsequential, in fact, our mothers then are so humble so that even when the man is engrossed with anger, they calm his nerves and soothe his soul with calming words, despite times that the man may be the one at fault, the woman will speak with humility, yet firm. Respect to his parents too is crucial, a man will totally love any woman that respects his parent, friends and his decisions. In our culture as Africans, we have seen and know how our parents respect themselves in words and actions, ill-manner is not condoled. The first example for every man is his mother - a perfect example of who/what he wants to be with/settle for; a respectable, well-cultured, courageous, hardworking and properly nurtured lady.
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Furthermore, having a good dress sense can not be overemphasized. These days, so many things are happening that has made people question what makes a lady cultured and respected? Of course, we see men give pleasurable comment to the nudity of ladies on various platforms of social media, but the truth remains that an African man knows better than to wife a woman who has totally lost her sense of modesty. Imagine him having to introduce you to his circle of friends and then they see this "loose" attitude in you. A popular saying goes thus; a lady is addressed how she is dressed, so whoever walks up to approach you have done that on the manner with which you presented yourself.
Men want a lady that commands respect, a woman confident in her dressing and attitude; a sociable, classy and sophisticated woman. African men do not appreciate ladies who go about half-naked, in fact, they honour lady who wear more covered clothes and respect them. That is a kind of woman he wants to show to his parents, friends and the world. Naturally, a mother's intuition does not lie and that is why she can tell on the kind of lady her son is about to wife on her first visit to see his parent.
Then, there is honour, culture never dies. African men would do anything for honour. They are a big fan of dignity and integrity. No man wants get involved with a woman who does not honour her parent, one who does not honour her parent will not honour another. So, a man carefully survey and weigh his chances with any woman he comes across but he knows when to keep at bay when the said woman has shown to be one who does not value her family. Honouring his parent as you would your parent will soften his heart towards you, any man who give his all to see his woman practically worship his parent and give them due regards. Without leaving out Love, this is the one thing that supersedes all. Truly, mothers get defensive when their son brings a woman home, particularly, African mothers and this is because they believe that the love, care, affection and attention given to them will be directed somewhere else. But, it is not always true and that is why it is important that you love his mother especially, so that she can be rest assured that you have come to further show her more love, rather than take away her love. Love, overcomes all - worries; fears; assumptions...
Winning the heart of an African man is but an easy one, it only has to be done with pure and true intentions. A woman with the above qualities need not worry anymore because no better way to gain an African man's heart except these. What you don't have, you can not give. So, you need to have these and it has to become a part of you before you give it - Culture, Respect, Modesty in dressing, Honour and love these are the top list of how to win a man's heart.
1. Respect Them
2. Don't Try to Control Them.
3. Give them Compliments
4. Give them Good Food
5. Win His Family
6. Be Industrious
7. Be Prayerful
Go win that special man's heart today.
Love & Peace ✌
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