How to Win an African Man's Heart

 

African men are egoistic and yes, you read that right. Being African makes you a product of Africa, heroic, strong, versatile, energetic, resilient and egoistic. So, it's not enough for you to say "you are beautiful". You need more than being beautiful to win that heart of a "strong" mind. 

Truly, men are moved by what they see, but as we all know, it's pertinent that you not only view the container, but you also need to access the content to know if it's worth appreciating and earned. 

How do you win the heart of an egoistic man, an African man? Be Cultured - Culture is one of the most true nature of a man. He does not shy away from it and can easily identify with anyone who respect his culture. Everyman, African men especially, wants a woman who holds "cultural heritage" in high esteem. So, if you want a man to open his heart up to you, be Cultured, promote your culture, live a morally cultured life and cherish your culture, so that he will know that his children would not be among those who deny their source and background. 

Respect - This is a two-way thing; it is given and it is earned. Absolutely, no man wants a woman who is disrespectful, regardless of age, position and status. Being African, makes it easy for men to know that respect is one of the things that makes a  person cultured. A friend once told me: he says, "a rude lady is a nude lady" because she has lot all that there is to her; she is seen as crude and shameless. Being respectful does not mean you look while your self esteem is trampled on, respect means having to say "No" in a polite manner. These days, lots of marriage has turned sour owing to the fact the man felt disrespected or not man enough to man his home.  In an African home, culture is valued and respect is lived out! In the days of old, women do not disrespectful men or regard them as inconsequential, in fact, our mothers then are so humble so that even when the man is engrossed with anger, they calm his nerves and soothe his soul with calming words, despite times that the man may be the one at fault, the woman will speak with humility, yet firm. Respect to his parents too is crucial, a man will totally love any woman that respects his parent, friends and his decisions. In our culture as Africans, we have seen and know how our parents respect themselves in words and actions, ill-manner is not condoled. The first example for every man is his mother - a perfect example of who/what he wants to be with/settle for; a respectable, well-cultured, courageous, hardworking and properly nurtured lady. 

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Furthermore, having a good dress sense can not be overemphasized. These days, so many things are happening that has made people question what makes a lady cultured and respected? Of course, we see men give pleasurable comment to the nudity of ladies on various platforms of social media, but the truth remains that an African man knows better than to wife a woman who has totally lost her sense of modesty. Imagine him having to introduce you to his circle of friends and then they see this "loose" attitude in you. A popular saying goes thus; a lady is addressed how she is dressed, so whoever walks up to approach you have done that on the manner with which you presented yourself. 

Men want a lady that commands respect, a woman confident in her dressing and attitude; a sociable, classy and sophisticated woman. African men do not appreciate ladies who go about half-naked, in fact, they honour lady who wear more covered clothes and respect them. That is a kind of woman he wants to show to his parents, friends and the world. Naturally, a mother's intuition does not lie and that is why she can tell on the kind of lady her son is about to wife on her first visit to see his parent. 

Then, there is honour, culture never dies. African men would do anything for honour. They are a big fan of dignity and integrity. No man wants get involved with a woman who does not honour her parent, one who does not honour her parent will not honour another. So, a man carefully survey and weigh his chances with any woman he comes across but he knows when to keep at bay when the said woman has shown to be one who does not value her family. Honouring his parent as you would your parent will soften his heart towards you, any man who give his all to see his woman practically worship his parent and give them due regards. Without leaving out Love, this is the one thing that supersedes all. Truly, mothers get defensive when their son brings a woman home, particularly, African mothers and this is because they believe that the love, care, affection and attention given to them will be directed somewhere else. But, it is not always true and that is why it is important that you love his mother especially, so that she can be rest assured that you have come to further show her more love, rather than take away her love. Love, overcomes all - worries; fears; assumptions...

Winning the heart of an African man is but an easy one, it only has to be done with pure and true intentions. A woman with the above qualities need not worry anymore because no better way to gain an African man's heart except these. What you don't have, you can not give. So, you need to have these and it has to become a part of you before you give it - Culture, Respect, Modesty in dressing, Honour and love these are the top list of how to win a man's heart.

 

In case you missed the first part of this series by Oluwatosin Wusu, you can catch up here Flowing from the conversation in Oluwatosins article, you can rightly assume that an African man is known to be bold, strong and handsome 😉Here are some tips to win an African man's heart 💃
 

1. Respect Them

African men love RESPECT. It is an important virtue in a relationship. It is the foundation of any relationship. To love a man means to respect him. Now how do you respect an African man? Apologize when you are wrong "Babe I am sorry no go kill you trust me". Be careful of how you communicate with him especially in public. You want your friends and family to respect him so you have to show them you respect your man and they should too.
 

2. Don't Try to Control Them. 

Naturally, the male gender likes to be in control of situations even if not all the time some of the time. If you are the type that likes things done in your way, then you might need to make some adjustment 😌 African men do not want a woman who dictates what his action should be, what he should do or not do

3. Give them Compliments

In as much as we know African men to be tough and hardly show their feelings. I am here to tell you they love and appreciate COMPLIMENTS ❤️ tell him sweet words. Don't be boring call him sweet names. Tell him he is the apple of your eyes, love of your life. Let him know you are proud of him. Let him know how grateful you are to God to have met him... You wanna tell him he is so smart and sweet awwwn 😋😍 Buy your man gifts. Send him money .. Be sexy for him. Appreciate your man. You wanna wake up in the morning and tell him thank you for everything baby... You mean so much to me

 

4. Give them Good Food

Now let's talk about FOOD. The saying "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach" is true. Your cooking skills have to be top notch. You need to know his favorite meal and how to cook it. You need to know if he is the cold food type or the hot food type. You should also note that no mother would want her son to marry a lady who is lacking cooking skills hence the Yoruba saying "olobe lo l'oko" (The one that can cook is the one that that owns the husband). If you'r looking for delicious African meals to try out, you can read our article here on various native African foods you should try out today
 

5. Win His Family

To successfully win a man's heart you need to win his family's love. Be close to his family, get to know his mother and his siblings. Buy gifts for them when visiting and make sure his mother starts calling you "our wife". 

 

6. Be Industrious

African men appreciate industrious women. This means that if you can be productive, the average African man will admire you because they love hardworking women. African men also believe that an industrious woman can be independent and as well provide adequate support for him.

7. Be Prayerful

Lastly who doesn't love a PRAYERFUL WOMAN. To win his heart you must love your man to go on your knees and pray for him. Pray for his career. Pray for his family. Commit him to God

       Go win that special man's heart today.

Love & Peace ✌

 

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